Lonely and bored

[Detoxer]

So quit 6/7 weeks ago, cold turkey and I've managed to successfully stay off weed!

But I am so lonely at times, I can't hang around with my stoner friends and over the years I've gradually pushed away my non-drug taking friends

So now I am 'clean' I find I have no friends anymore really, well no people I can see regularly

Anyone else felt like this?? and if so how did you make new friends????


Also, I'm cleaning non-stop... think i'm getting so obsessive about the cleanliness of the house i live in. maybe this is like the addiction shifting to something else?

I'm eating loads, and healthily as well..


does anyone else experience any of this?

cheers

[Cannabis Rehab Guest]

6/7 weeks

6/7 weeks your doing really well,,wish i was at 7 weeks,,,,its still not long though your new life will build around your new behaviour,,,,it takes time,,,keep your chin up

[mungobeans]

Mate congrats on stayin clean. I to have had to say so-long to some of my smoking buddies but have also found a new relationship with my family. Friends come and go but family is for life. As for the cleaning, mate bring your mop and bucket over here
Keep well and don't stress dude
Regards, Adam

[Cannabis Rehab Admin]

Hang in there Hummer, it will be shit at times, but it’s all part of the process, you really are doing very well. Keep trying to make those new friends and you will get there in the end, if you need a giggle try this, it certainly put a smile on my face.

[Detoxer]

hi blogger, that video is really funny lol

i'm actually feeling so good this week, in terms of emotions and general well being - think the final piece in the jigsaw is to make some new friends and then once the loneliness is gone i'll b all good

did you have to make new friends after quitting??? if so, did you tell them you used to do drugs?

[Cannabis Rehab Admin]

I did make some new friends after quitting and repaired some old friendships with non smokers which I had neglected, yes I have told people I used to use drugs, it really did not bother me been open and honest about it, I never really thought the people I was telling would have too much of a problem with it, I do appreciate however that a lot of that can probably depend on the nature of the environment, it goes without saying that certain environments are probably more understanding than others, although I think people generally are a lot more understanding about this sort of thing than they used to be, but I guess it’s a personal decision that everybody has to make.

It’s good to hear you are feeling better.

[Cannabis Rehab Guest]

lonely and bored too

Hi Hummer, fantastic that you've got this far. I've just made my first post on here and I'm only on day 12. But yes, I have the same fear, I think I've almost forgotten how to be relaxed with another person around so making new friends seems a bit overwhelming. I'm starting though by doing things slowly. I booked myself in for a head massage and guitar lessons...for me it's not about making friends just yet, just slowly getting back into being comfortable with other people. I also now set aside half an hour to speak to one 'old' friend on the phone twice a week. A few things have come from it and I'm hoping in time it'll just seem natural again.

I'm with you on the cleaning though, it just reduces my anxiety (my curtains turned out to be white, not light brown like I thought!). Sounds like you're doing well up to now, I'm sure if you relax and accept it might take some time, the strength you have shown to kick the habit is sure to make you an attractive person to have as a friend. For me it's just a matter of putting myself in situations where there are other people but there's something else going on so it's not the main focus.

Coming on here has also helps!

[Shookaa1990]

Hey Hummer.

I think its awesome you got this far. It isn't a surprise that you managed to push your non-smoking friends away. Most people do and don't realize it. That is the sad truth about marujuana, and everything it brings. It can isolate you into one group that is alike, and if you choose the path that brings you to a clean, drug free life, you end up having little to nothing. It can be really hard when you have to start from scratch, and I only wish you the best in your future endeavors.

All the best!
Shookaa

[Daisy]

So bored

I'm finding the boredom really tough, the days seem really long without a joint. There are loads of things I could be doing but just don't have the motivation to do them, I'd always roll a j first then get on with what I had to do so I had that to look forward to after.

I have been cleaning more than normal but also moping around a lot too. Was in a really good mood earlier but mood swing has kicked in and I'm now really grumpy and its times like now that I just want to smoke.

[Detoxer]

Hey Hummer.

I think its awesome you got this far. It isn't a surprise that you managed to push your non-smoking friends away. Most people do and don't realize it. That is the sad truth about marujuana, and everything it brings. It can isolate you into one group that is alike, and if you choose the path that brings you to a clean, drug free life, you end up having little to nothing. It can be really hard when you have to start from scratch, and I only wish you the best in your future endeavors.

All the best!
Shookaa

hiya, you're right about having to start from scratch!

it's like a blank page and it can be scary and lonely, but I just have to keep faith that i am better without the drug and that eventually things will improve and i'll have a more fulfilling life.

i guess the consequences of ten years of smoking the drug can't be erased in 2 months of being clean - it's gonna be a long process and i just have to believe in myself!

[Detoxer]

I'm finding the boredom really tough, the days seem really long without a joint. There are loads of things I could be doing but just don't have the motivation to do them, I'd always roll a j first then get on with what I had to do so I had that to look forward to after.

I have been cleaning more than normal but also moping around a lot too. Was in a really good mood earlier but mood swing has kicked in and I'm now really grumpy and its times like now that I just want to smoke.

hey, i understand how you feel!

sometimes at night i sit around at night and think 'would it really hurt to have a joint' but i need to remember why i quit!