Been wondering lately what to do about my children...how much to tell them. I have four girls and all but the youngest, who's 10 know I am detoxing. I have lots of other stuff going on so she probably attributes the symptoms to those things, but she's not stupid either...kids never are. I have been extremely honest with the oldest about it but haven't talked to the youngest about it at all...now I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. I'v always thought that honesty was the best policy but I want to protect my kids from the harsher realities of life at least til they're older. But the thought occurred to me that whats happening at the moment could serve as a positive thing, in that she would have a first hand perspective of the dangers of pot...which is always a good thing, no matter the age. The other two are aware and are proud of my efforts (I get lots of hugs and encouragement) and I know that at least now I'm setting a positive example about drugs, which they need cos they're both in high school and surrounded by all kinds of drugs. My question regarding them is..do I sit them down and tell them whats going on with me when things are particularly bad or just stick to what I'v been doing, which is basically telling them its making me sick....haven't told them anything about the emotional aspects cos I'm scared they'll worry..I want to make life as easy as possible for them, especially now when their mum is quitting drugs and an abusive, violent relationship...I am very focused on not putting them through any more pain if I can help it..but I don't want to transfer my stuff to them. I just want them to be ok. They are much happier without my ex around and I know they will be even better with a straight thinking mum. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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